The Basics of good being a submissive and what to look for in a Dom master…

Knowing the basics of being a good female submissive is something (I have come to realise) the majority of females (even those who are curious about being or becoming a BDSM submissive or submissive slut) need to be aware of if they truly wish to achieve the end-goal of finding a suitable and compatible Dom Master.

Most are oblivious to what it takes to find a Master who is willing to take them on & whom they are willing to please.

Some think that being a good submissive is just about saying “yes” all the time and offering up the odd submissive gesture; this is not the case. But here are a few things that will help you to be a good submissive. Things that many will either completely overlook or miss…

• A good sub knows that finding her Dom black master is not just about him having a BBc!
  This is a common misconception and so requires immediate addressing…

  I hear the question asked all the time: “How big are you Master K?”…”How big is your manhood?”… for me, this is such an annoying &  off-putting question. It instantly lets me know that the asker has no real class and definitely no real-world experience of being a trained BDSM submissive.

  The asker of such a question is more likely to just be seeking a porn star experience than being a real BDSM experience with a UK Dom Master. The chances of her being a role-playing submissive are very slim.
  Real submissives know that being a good dom Master has absolutely nothing to do with having massive manhood, and whether I do or not is none of your damn business 🙂
  

• The ability to spot and trust a competent Dom Master I get it, most men are not to be trusted until they have proven themselves to be trustworthy. But, with some of the best submissives I have spoken with, I have found that they have the innate ability to quickly differentiate between someone like myself and the average male. Within just a few hours of communicating, I can see that they are beginning to let their ‘guard’ down with me and begin to let me in.
• A willingness to listen and be open to learning new things is priceless I have lost count of the number of times I have been contacted by someone who attempts to tell me how things are going to go between us or why I should try to do things their way. I then continue to ask them how long they have been in this industry and how many years of knowledge & experience they have exactly – their response is always: 0 YEARS! …. Understanding that you probably do not know better than an experienced Dom Master is important.
• It is a submissive job and even duty to contact her master first every day (or at least every other day at the least)When it comes to a Dom master that she is interested in being owned by…expecting the Dom Master K to contact you first is akin to expecting him to chase you – which is beta male behaviour and more something that you would expect from something that is trying to court you to become your boyfriend – not a Dom Master. Remember that he is NOT trying to become your boyfriend, so it’s important not to seek the same qualities from a Dom master as you would from a potential boyfriend: 6ft plus tall, dark & handsome, earning six figures etc.
• Being submissive is not for masculine females nor those who have a problem with following the leadership of men. When coming into this you need to be honest with yourself and decide if this is something that you are able to put up with or not.
• Being a submissive is not an act, it’s a way of life faking it is often and soon exposed – which usually leads to the end of any communication between us.
• As a successful BDSM dom master, I have had it all said to me (as you can probably imagine)… Everything from:- “I will be submissive when I find the right guy”…. or…
  – “It takes a certain kind of guy to bring out my submissive side”

  … I think this is absolute rubbish!… you either are submissive through and through or you are not.

  It is not something that can be successfully faked for long. Many think or even assume that they are submissive, just because they have been in a few relationships where they have allowed the man to take charge of things, but being a true submissive female is about more than just this and takes some real studying & learning combined with intentionally reading up on the topic.

• Good submissives have usually taken the time to learn & research how to be one – again, being a good submissive is not just about saying “yes” and “okay” to a Dominant master. I have found that those who are truly submissive to their core have almost always gone out of their way and taken the time to learn more about how to be a good submissive.